Tip #295 - Prepare for Emergencies - Part 3. In parts 1 and 2 of this series, we are talking about being prepared for emergencies - not just financially, but emotionally and physically as well. We defined that an emergency is unexpected, sudden and can devastate you financially, emotionally, and/or physically. In the last post we described how to be prepared for a job loss. Today, we'll talk about being prepared for a diagnosis of a serious illness and death of a family member.
If someone in your immediate family has a serious illness diagnosis, that constitutes an emergency - it's usually, sudden, unexpected and has financial, emotional, and physical consequences. How can we be prepared for that? While, we can probably never be fully prepared, we can do steps in advance of this happening that can make a sudden diagnosis a bit easier to digest.
First, review your health insurance plans. Know what your insurance covers, in general. Be aware of any health services that your office offers such as a Flex spending plan and counseling. Second, obtain a list of specialists from your general practitioner, so you have a place to start if you need to scout out a doctor. Third, keep up your network of friends, neighbors, and local and even long-distance contacts. If your husband is suddenly diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, it's likely that you know someone who has a family member or friend who you can contact to get the low-down of the disease, treatments, and local doctors. Fourth, be aware of time off policies for work. You will need to clarify the policy once you need to use it, but being armed with knowledge in advance helps save time when a diagnosis becomes a very busy time. Last, make sure you have that emergency fund in place. This is the time that you may need to dip into it. No matter how good your health insurance, doctors' visits may involve co-pays, gas and car maintenance costs, time off from work, special foods or other products, and greater living expenses such as food-on-the run, babysitters, etc. Once the emergency is known and the initial newness of it has worn off, this will likely become a budget category for you or cause you to raise your budget in the expense categories just mentioned.
A similar-type emergency but one more extreme is the loss of a family member. If the family member is a spouse that is the breadwinner, then the financial consequences, not to mention the emotional ones, can be devastating. What can you do before a death in the family to prepare for this unexpected event? First, you can make sure any breadwinner or the person who provides a service to your family (cooks, childcare, driver) has life insurance. This life insurance should be enough to cover the expenses - at least for a few years - that this person usually takes care of - housing, food, utilities, childcare, etc. If there are children in the picture, it should cover them for at least as many years until the children are grown. Without getting into a whole post about life insurance, just make sure that you talk to someone (hopefully an unbiased person) about your life insurance needs before you need it, and make sure you are covered before the unthinkable happens.
Another way to plan for this type of emergency is to have a will. I cannot overestimate how important this is. When someone dies, if their will clearly states where funds will go, the beneficiary will receive the money much faster than if it has to go into probate. Third, make sure other policies have the correct beneficiary status updated. If you have a 401(k) at work, for example, is your spouse your beneficiary or is it still your parents (from the time you were single an started the job)? As you get older and have more accounts, it gets harder to keep track of this. So check on this status once per year to make sure they are updated to your current situation.
If the death of a family member is not a breadwinner or does not provide any type of services that would cost money, the loss is going to be an emotional one more than anything. There is no way to prepare for such an emergency, other than to have a good network of family, friends available to you. By being a caring, loyal friend when times are good for you, will likely lead to others stepping up to help you when you need it.
In Real Life (IRL) - In September, a family in my town lost their son to a tragic, unexpected, and sudden accident. One minute the boy was happy and playing. The next minute, he was gone forever. No one would have predicted it. I did not know this family before the accident. And other than through the web and from friends and local events, I still do not know this family personally. But I have seen the outpouring of love and helpfulness by their neighbors, their church, their community, and from their online friends and even strangers that has helped hold this family up.
Their son's loss of life did not impact them financially, but the devastation that his death brought to them cannot be overestimated. I do not think there is a thing a person can do to prepare, in advance, for this type of tragedy. Other than to be a good person and friend to your family, friends, and community, as it appears this family was. Because at such a horrific time in their lives, I believe their family and friends (and their personal religious convictions) are the only things holding them up. I hope no one I know or any readers here ever experience such a loss, but to see how this family is handling it, you can read the mom's blog: An Inch of Gray. She is a beautiful writer. While it is depressing reading about their tragedy, it is uplifting to see how this woman is handling a devastating emergency.
No one will ever be fully prepared for sickness or death. But doing anything that you can in advance, like the steps mentioned above, and admitting to yourself that life involves both sickness and death and no one will ever avoid them entirely, may make it slightly easier if such unexpected tragedy strikes.